I can understand how "the hardest scenario is when an (emotionally struggling) child refuses treatment", however; even if 'help' is sought, the message from therapists, internet, peers often encourages blaming of the parents and subsequent estrangement as therapy. The adult child seeking help can be treacherous for the parents.
Dr. Coleman, is there any chance of therapists ever recognizing that the estranger's level and duration of anger is in itself pathological? I know people who survived an attempted murder and they got over it faster than these kids who "felt unloved." We know there are neuroses that leave a person unable to feel love - what if it's them? And their need for total control of the parent - the words they use, the candidates they vote for, their choice of music and diet, etc, - is also pathological.
How does it continue to be so widely assumed that the parents did something to cause this mental state?
This is so helpful ~ it explains so much about the instability and the confusion I’ve experienced. One day praising me for the parent I was and how thankful she is for everything I do. Then 2 weeks later without an incident or an explanation, she doesn’t want me in her life anymore.
I can understand how "the hardest scenario is when an (emotionally struggling) child refuses treatment", however; even if 'help' is sought, the message from therapists, internet, peers often encourages blaming of the parents and subsequent estrangement as therapy. The adult child seeking help can be treacherous for the parents.
Dr. Coleman, is there any chance of therapists ever recognizing that the estranger's level and duration of anger is in itself pathological? I know people who survived an attempted murder and they got over it faster than these kids who "felt unloved." We know there are neuroses that leave a person unable to feel love - what if it's them? And their need for total control of the parent - the words they use, the candidates they vote for, their choice of music and diet, etc, - is also pathological.
How does it continue to be so widely assumed that the parents did something to cause this mental state?
Dr Coleman - Realizing that our son had mental illness was the lynchpin to finally understanding the reasons for his estrangement.
It also made me face & accept that I gave birth to a child with a psychiatric condition
This is so helpful ~ it explains so much about the instability and the confusion I’ve experienced. One day praising me for the parent I was and how thankful she is for everything I do. Then 2 weeks later without an incident or an explanation, she doesn’t want me in her life anymore.
Hi Josh, Thank you... this is well written and true. Is this available to listen to since I was working?