I have exactly this situation with my son. He's 40 years old, a husband and father. We always had a warm relationship. I'm not a hover mother at all, so I tried not to be a bother, but when we got together, we could talk for hours about anything and everything.
Unfortunately, his wife decided I'm the Evil One about 7 years ago and stopped talking to me. She worked hard on my son to convince him of her views and finally, two years ago, he broke off too. We now have very low contact. He'll answer me if I text, but nothing personal or friendly in tone.
It makes me incredibly incredibly sad, but I do understand the difficult place he's in. I would never expect him to choose his mother over his wife, but it's terrible that she's caused this totally unnecessary rift. I am not allowed to visit my grandchildren, although the oldest two do text with me and have remained friendly, thankfully.
There are so many times I want to reach out to my son to talk about an item in the news or something really funny or interesting that happened and I stop myself. I'm afraid to push him into no contact if I come across as tone deaf to his new stance.
I pray that he'll see the error of his ways one day. It's so sad and unfair.
I’m so sorry. You sound like a great mom, warm and respectful. I’m glad your two oldest grandchildren stay in touch with you. I hope you’re taking care of yourself, however that looks for you. I’ve started researching a bit about my family history (Irish; many immigrated in the mid-1800s during and right after the famine/genocide). My oldest child is pretty much estranged from us. Feeling like I’m cut off from future generations (there’s a granddaughter we don’t really get to see), I’m finding some solace in feeling connected to previous generations. We’re all trying to find our way in very painful situations. God Bless. 💝
I have exactly this situation with my son. He's 40 years old, a husband and father. We always had a warm relationship. I'm not a hover mother at all, so I tried not to be a bother, but when we got together, we could talk for hours about anything and everything.
Unfortunately, his wife decided I'm the Evil One about 7 years ago and stopped talking to me. She worked hard on my son to convince him of her views and finally, two years ago, he broke off too. We now have very low contact. He'll answer me if I text, but nothing personal or friendly in tone.
It makes me incredibly incredibly sad, but I do understand the difficult place he's in. I would never expect him to choose his mother over his wife, but it's terrible that she's caused this totally unnecessary rift. I am not allowed to visit my grandchildren, although the oldest two do text with me and have remained friendly, thankfully.
There are so many times I want to reach out to my son to talk about an item in the news or something really funny or interesting that happened and I stop myself. I'm afraid to push him into no contact if I come across as tone deaf to his new stance.
I pray that he'll see the error of his ways one day. It's so sad and unfair.
Yup. It’s beyond cruel. I totally get it. In the same sad spot
I’m so sorry. You sound like a great mom, warm and respectful. I’m glad your two oldest grandchildren stay in touch with you. I hope you’re taking care of yourself, however that looks for you. I’ve started researching a bit about my family history (Irish; many immigrated in the mid-1800s during and right after the famine/genocide). My oldest child is pretty much estranged from us. Feeling like I’m cut off from future generations (there’s a granddaughter we don’t really get to see), I’m finding some solace in feeling connected to previous generations. We’re all trying to find our way in very painful situations. God Bless. 💝