Josh, thanks so much for this. I believe we also had a brief discussion about this issue. I think that, instead of a blanket statement of not being in support of cutting our children out of our will, I think it really depends on the circumstances. In my case, it has been an extreme, irrational, and of course, devastating 4 years. Mainly, not being about to communicate or see my 2 grandchildren, who are growing fast. My husband and I decided to take care of our grandchildren equally in our Will & Trust, but not our daughter. We feel that we want to treat all the grandchildren equally. I realize a legacy and how we want to be remembered are issues, however, it is ultimately our decision who we want to give our hard-earned monies to when we die. What my daughter has done, and is continuing to do, is the legacy she created.
This article offers valuable advice to parents who are deeply hurt and wounded. In such a state of mind, people often react in ways they might not if they weren’t experiencing such intense pain. Right? How many times do individuals say or do things in moments of hurt that they later regret? After we are gone there is no opportunity to undo the hurt that we, as parents, may cause from not letting what we otherwise would graciously flow from us to our children, which in turn, would hurt them. Thanks Dr C
Josh, thanks so much for this. I believe we also had a brief discussion about this issue. I think that, instead of a blanket statement of not being in support of cutting our children out of our will, I think it really depends on the circumstances. In my case, it has been an extreme, irrational, and of course, devastating 4 years. Mainly, not being about to communicate or see my 2 grandchildren, who are growing fast. My husband and I decided to take care of our grandchildren equally in our Will & Trust, but not our daughter. We feel that we want to treat all the grandchildren equally. I realize a legacy and how we want to be remembered are issues, however, it is ultimately our decision who we want to give our hard-earned monies to when we die. What my daughter has done, and is continuing to do, is the legacy she created.
This article offers valuable advice to parents who are deeply hurt and wounded. In such a state of mind, people often react in ways they might not if they weren’t experiencing such intense pain. Right? How many times do individuals say or do things in moments of hurt that they later regret? After we are gone there is no opportunity to undo the hurt that we, as parents, may cause from not letting what we otherwise would graciously flow from us to our children, which in turn, would hurt them. Thanks Dr C